What If This Guy Liked Your Music?

Have you ever had a song or band ruined for you? When you discover a band, and then everyone else starts to like them, they play them on the radio, and it’s no longer you’re little secret. When a friend starts to like your favourite band and always plays them when they give you a ride and annoyingly sings along to the lyrics. When a dance song you think is decent it played relentlessly EVERYWHERE, on the radio, in the shops, at the clubs, and then, the ultimate song sacrifice, in a car commercial. When the ‘wrong’ sort of people start liking the music you do. When you’re mom pokes her head in the door and says, “oh, what’s this?’ you’re immediate reaction is to turn it down, but no, “I kinda like it.”

This has happened several times for me, most recently with The Black Keys, I liked them first, when they were nobodies, and now they’ve become, ugg, popular. Then there was Radiohead, when you could hear it playing in every college dorm, and then before that when my friend nearly stole Beck from me, playing Sea Changes on repeat whenever we hung out, and then there’s the horrors when I play Stevie Wonder or Billie Holiday and my mom will walk by and start bopping around, “this music just makes me wanna move.”

But in the end I always come back to them, although it’s annoying when other people can influence your appreciation for a band, it’s ultimately what drew you to the music in the first place that will remain true. So while hipsters may have ruined shopping at thrift stores and collecting vinyl records, they’ll never take my Morrissey.

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137 thoughts on “What If This Guy Liked Your Music?

  1. jackiesshc says:

    It sucks, you know, when you love something that isn’t popular…and then it blows up and becomes popluar. Yeah, vinyls-been doing it for years, Foster the People-saw them before they blew up, and now my very soul or classic rock is coming back–but I will not complain about that, bc I’ve seen most of my favorite bands!!!!

  2. Carlie Chew says:

    That is so funny, when I started reading your article it immediately made me think of the Black Keys and then I realized they were who you were talking about. A few years ago I got to see the Black Keys at a festival in Florida called Wanee. It’s a huge festival, but when the Black Keys played no one knew who they were and there maybe 20 people that showed up to see them. It was amazing. Now, you can’t turn the channel without hearing one of their songs in a commercial.

  3. I’m ok with my mum liking my music. Its the clones at my university that worry me more.

  4. One word: Adele.

    LOVED her music…until the world joined in. They kinda ruined it for me, stupid world…


    But I’m sure I’ll come back around. Once the world jumps off the bandwagon!

    • Chizzy says:

      Yep, totally agree!! I liked the album 19 until all these house remixes kept coming out. Look, I live in South Africa, and some house music is just today’s hits with an mid-tempo beat added on – mostly unoriginal.
      Muy annoying.

  5. Oh how I loved this! Once blogged about how bad I felt when Led Zeppelin shilled for Cadillac, and The Who’s “Happy Jack” showed up on a Hummer ad. Not fair when you are the first to appreciate a band’s brilliance and then — horrors! — they are desecrated and made trite when the masses discover them.

  6. urbannight says:

    My theory is that if you stop liking a band because they have gotten too popular then you didn’t really like the band. You liked having knowledge of something that most people didn’t know yet. It’s just another form a pretention. It’s like the people who only read ‘literary’ fiction and turn up there noses at anything else or the people who only read non-fiction, because it is ‘real’.

    If you like the music, then you should always like it. There is one exection to this. That is when the music gets used in connection to something you REALLY hate. From that point on, everytime you hear it ,you think of the thing that you hate.

    • Patsy says:

      Totally agree. if you really liked the band itself, you would want the world to know how great it was!

    • Tinkerbell says:

      Like associating it with a memory, or a person, that you want to forget. Right?

      I like what you said, I agree.

      Although I felt the same as the poster, and sometimes still do, but really what I dislike is someone going through my playlists behind my back or if I mistakenly give them the opportunity to look through it by accident. It’s like I wasn’t yet ready to share it with anyone, much less a family member, I treat it like a part of my personality I wasn’t yet ready to divulge, but I’ve changed. I take this much easily now. Would I really feel the same angst about sharing it with the world if we were talking about pies? No. That’s what love is about; you want to tell the whole world that you love what you love, there should be no secret, no shame, no greed. When greed gets in the way, it all loses its purpose, it no longer would be love.

      This is a great post, by the way, mr/miss blogger, will check out the rest of your blog.

      Peace & love,

    • jokerbiker says:

      I agree. If you stop liking a band because they are becoming popular then are you possibly saying that you don’t want them to progress in their career?

      It’s more annoying when you hear a band that you like and they DON’T become popular and disappear from sight (sound?)


    • Too true. Really good stuff is still really good stuff even when everyone else likes it. When a song gets played a lot and it gets tiring to hear that often, turn it off for a while. Later, when you’re older and it gets played again as an “oldie” You’ll love it again.

    • Arrogantsob says:

      Good thing I read through the comments section before commenting myself, or else I would have made the embarrassing mistake of parroting your exact thoughts. The music I listen to has nothing to do with anyone else in the world but me. It’s about me and how I react to it and what emotions it stirs in me. Why the hell would it matter to me how you felt about it, unless I am so wrapped up in being “edgy” and “too-cool-for-the-room”? In which case, it really isnt about the music at all, but really about the image. Not only do I not care if anyone else is into it, I would prefer that they were, and I constantly am trying to get friends and family to appreciate what I find meaningful. I also don’t have a problem with a band “selling out”. Why shouldnt they make money from their art?

      • urbannight says:

        “too-cool-for-the-room” is the perfect description for some of the people I have know that only like ‘unknown’ artists.

  7. The bearded guy in your picture is from a hipster book called ‘Look at this F*cking Hipster’. The other pictures of him in the book are hilarious.

    I have some pictures of The Black Keys you may want to check out on my Flickr page -> http://www.flickr.com/photos/hipsterapproved/sets/72157628911876869/

    I saw Radiohead open for Alanis Morissette for her Jagged Little Pill tour in 1995. I remember Thom saying ‘Hello..We’re Radiohead, and we’re going to play till it get dark.’ They already had a hit with ‘Creep’ by then.

  8. Anonymous says:

    music is music. it was never yours and you weren’t the first to like them. move on with life.

  9. sweetsound says:

    This is stupid. How about just liking who you like instead of relying on what other people think, or how popular the band is or isn’t, to determine what you’ll listen to. Like you said, “it’s annoying when other people can influence your appreciation for a band.” So stop letting them.

    • Bee - http://ifyouaskbee.wordpress.com/ says:

      Agreed. There’s nothing more ridiculous and pretentious than someone who stops liking a band cos other people like it. Also, when I read ‘What if this guy liked your music’ I thought it was going to be music the blogger produced, not someone else’s music that they’re claiming ownership of (by calling it ‘their’ music) and being annoyed that other people enjoy it too. Sigh :/

  10. foreverholdyourpiece says:

    Stevie wonder and billie holiday were probably from your mothers time… Dont you think, perhaps, she feels that way when you hear it?

  11. OMG, who doesn’t go through this? I mean seriously it happens all the time and has even caused me to hate a certain genre of music because of it. Thank god i listen to rock music now and i say this because not a soul around me likes that kind of music so it leaves me and newly found genre of music in peace -,o


  12. Emily says:

    Yea I’m sure you liked the Black Keys first…

  13. Kinked Slinky says:

    I liked pretending radiohead was all mine…

  14. Elena says:

    it’s hilarious to see that absolutely outrageous man with no class whatsoever above the freshpressed “Culture” tag!!! : ))) wow! speechless

  15. andriaparker says:

    Easy come, easy go. Sooner or later it will be all yours again!

  16. 1stpeaksteve says:

    I once went to the Warp Tour because I wanted to see this band I heard a song from. They were on the side stage and when a big named band played at the same time, well, everyone else left except for me and 10 others. When the show ended, we all hung out and talked with them. The next show a year later was a bit more crowded but nothing bad but that did not last for to long.

    Now everyone loves Flogging Molly!

    I guess I can’t be selfish and I have to share.

  17. sofiaimposible says:

    You know what’s really anoying about some people? When you like a band for 3 or 4 years, you liked them in an early stage, when they weren’t all that famous, and really dig that music like a fuckin masterpiece,
    You even show em to your friends, because you’re complety sure that its awesome, and they are like “ah, i’ts ok”,
    Then, all the sudden, one day you see that a friend (the one said it was “ok”) posts a video on facebook of your favorite band and goes crazy about it.
    Like its their discovery.
    Just because the band is in the twilight saga.

  18. annlivingston says:

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  19. I hate when people feel superior for listening to music before it becomes ‘popular’.

  20. Love the “visual”!!

  21. Yes yes yes! I was just thinking about this! I had so many bands and songs stolen from me. I feel like a little kid; I found them first so they’re MINE.

  22. aviatrixkim says:

    Sometimes a band actually *is* fantastic, even when everybody thinks it is. You could look at it like this: let your favourite bands’ popularity occasionally renew your faith in human taste and judgement. That’s what I try to do. Because here in Nashville, we’ve got plenty of brilliant musicians nobody knows about. (And they’re bringing you a cocktail right now.) I’d feel much happier for us all if the world embraced them so they could quit their day jobs and make me some art.

  23. i think that guy looks like fun and would love him to be showing up at my shows…so get a life you judgmental no-back bone try hard.

  24. AK says:

    guess that’s a one of the reason I’m listening hardcore music. 🙂

  25. MBlifeingeneral says:

    That photo extraordinary! El Camino, despite the brilliant music on it, is sadly my least favourite of their albums for that exact reason.

  26. Vero says:

    I’m having the same issue with my favourite actor, Ryan Gosling, whose talent I’ve worshipped since before his blockbuster days. Now suddenly “everyone” wants him? Fuck no – he’s MINE; he’s been mine for years!

  27. 4000 says:

    cool photo lame post

  28. scottodactyl says:

    Yeah, it’s probably best to just enjoy the music you like on a personal level, and not let something as vain as other people’s appreciation affect how you react to it. Because I mean, douchebags are everywhere, and they love everything. Douchebags love The Beatles. Douchebags love Radiohead. Douchebags love Crystal Castles. Douchebags love Jay-Z. There’s not a band on the planet that is 100% douche free.

    To limit your own personal tastes, like what you listen to in the privacy of your home in your headphones, to accommodate whether or not some asshole also likes it is only hurting yourself. It must suck to constantly be reevaluating your tastes based on others. I don’t care if every dingus on the planet now knows the words to Edward Sharpe’s “Home”, and it was used in an NFL commercial, it’s still a great song, and I continue to enjoy it on a personal level.

    Only liking bands before they get popular, as some statement that you are so great and so knowledgeable, only to abandon them when your meathead cousin and his frat buddies stumble across them as well, is pretty much *just* as douchey as hating people for finding out about great songs after you did.

    Kudos on discovering The Black Keys. I’m sure it sucks to now be able to talk about how much you like them with the people you know. It’s much better to just be bitter and remove yourself from the situation altogether…

    And for the record, your mom probably liked Stevie Wonder before you did.

  29. hattydaze says:

    Great music will out, you know. You have to let others share good songs. I know it’s annoying and it’s great to hear it first but actually, in fact, maybe your mum did hear some things first. Maybe it’s thanks to her in part that you have good taste in music. Anyway, keep enjoying your music, but sorry – you’re going to have to share some of it with me (and that includes Morrissey).

  30. This is the kind of fan that makes America stand out. I would give him a big belly bump and high five and hope he doesn’t fall on me later.

  31. patricemj says:

    This is extremely thought-provoking. My primal fear – when others come to enjoy what I have first enjoyed in obscurity – it that the lemming paws of millions upon the once charming obscure object or experience will somehow trample it to death. This usually does happen. Before the thing was The Thing you had a real relationship to it based upon it not being A Thing, but once it becomes A Thing you feel like all those others are just like animals humping the leg of your Beck, Radiohead, Thrift store (whatever, love Beck and Radiohead btw). Just know, you are the artist, you are the original finder in your own mind. And nobody can take away the real relationship an artist has to anything. Be glad you can have a relationship with a thing before it becomes A Thing. That means you’ll live a good life 😉

  32. 50cigarettes says:

    Ugh, that’s happened to me too!

    I used to be into Vampire Weekend (well, I still am) and then all of a sudden I kept hearing people talk about it, heard it on the radio and finally in a car commercial.

  33. I like music for the music. I don’t care who likes it or not. That is silly and you’re picking on the dude in the photo also! If you like original music then tell me why you don’t like original people? He is definitely original!

  34. My sister is that way about a lot of entertainment. She put of reading Harry Potter for a long time just because of the fans.
    Since I’ve never been a trend setter/follower, I just like what I like no matter what anyone else says or does. But the picture you’ve used definitely makes me think twice…
    I guess I take it more as a reflection on the person (looking stupid) as opposed to it influencing my enjoyment of a group.

  35. csburko89 says:

    Awesome! I was a huge fan when the Black Keys brought out The Big Come Up and now everyone seems to love them, same with the Kings of Leon, Youth and Young Manhood is by far the best album and shows the true tallent of Caleb’s voice! Great blog!

  36. Jocelyn says:

    I feel this way SO MUCH about so many musicians. For example, I saw Jason Mraz back in 2005 at a small venue in Vancouver, BC, and, at the time, “I’m Yours” was still just a fan favourite, not an any albums; then he put it on his last album, changed it up and he suddenly became popular and started playing arena shows. A part of my soul died.

    • sharonthenerd says:

      my sentiments exactly, jason was like a treasure that i kept all to myself, and all of a sudden everybody likes him?…. and i used to love a particular song, i showed it to my friends, they laughed at it and called it lame, all of a sudden, it starts getting airplay and they’re raving about it. I’m like -_____-

    • gianthead says:

      Jason Mraz? You should not have been admitting to this in the first place..yuk!

  37. alterego9221 says:

    nice article:) i love music! i’m glad to be the first to comment here:D greetings from Romania!

  38. howkidswork1 says:

    that will be so wierd

  39. cherylhuffer says:

    It’s like when you are looking for a job and then you find a job, Heaven, you are miserable now!

  40. stublogs says:

    Why do people get so protective over bands? Surely we should want everyone to share the joy we get from listening to them? I love telling people about new bands I discover. Surely the more popular your favourite band becomes eg. Black Keys the more often you will hear them and then see them play live – who cares if hipsters like them, it doesn’t take away from the value of the music or make you a hipster 🙂 and hopefully the bigger they get the less often rubbish like One Direction/Nickleback/Offspring gets played on the radio…

    • David Korman says:

      Offspring was great when I was a kid. I’d appreciate if you didn’t clump them in with trash like Nickleback. 😛

      • stublogs says:

        They were great when I was a kid too – Ignition, Smash – fantastic albums, but if they continue to release drivel like this latest California song (sounds like Kate Perry with a guitar) they deserve to be ridiculed and clumped with the likes of Nickleback 🙂

      • David Korman says:

        Americana kept me sane while I practiced for my Bar Mitzvah in 1999. I’m listening to the album now on Spotify and my nostalgia is waning quickly.

  41. stublogs says:

    …And if I was in a band and I saw that fat guy dancing to my music I would LOVE IT!

  42. landstand3r says:

    Great article. I once had a friend tell me that daft punk sucked and that I should play more dragonforce. Several years later, after they become more popular, he loves daft punk. I gave him a death stare for at least a minute strait.

  43. sylviedesign says:

    I can’t lie, I know what you mean but isn’t it kind of hipster to say I like a band because they are unknown and so awesome? It’s kind of like having your own band. The thing I keep reminding myself is if I want them to still be a band, they need to be successful and keep coming out with new albums that rock or they will need to get jobs that make them stop playing or play less. I loved Killers Hot Fuss before they blew up but I am not so fond of their new sound. As long as the band is still playing great songs, I’ll still support them like I did when they were playing in a pub for 10 people instead of a stadium for +1000.

  44. Chizzy says:

    The only reason I’d stop listening to music by someone is because I grow out of it, I find hidden messages in the music that I didn’t see before, or their music starts to give me bad memories or vibes. Not because ‘everyone’ is singing along to it now.

    What I don’t appreciate is people pretending to like certain music because it makes them seem ‘deep’, or when ONE single by a previously underrated artist goes global and everyone knows it, then you get those people saying “OMG, i’m so-and-so’s biggest fan!”.

    But if someone who’s never heard the material of these bands comes in a bit late and starts getting into all of it and actually takes a liking to it, let them. Music is supposed to unite, not separate 🙂

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  46. David Korman says:

    Hello sweetfoot,
    I believe the most accurate point you make is about decent dance songs getting over played “on the radio, in the shops, at the clubs.” I love decent dance music.

    On a similar note, the classic rock radio stations have been playing the same songs since the albums originally dropped. But there are other good songs from most of those bands. I wish the classic rock stations would play some ‘new-old music.’

    Check out my blog, I just reviewed a roots rock band from Northern California that only a few hundred people have ever heard of. If you decide to like John Courage and the Great Plains now, you could get a good 4 years out of them before they break the popularity seal and pour into the mainstream.

    • Jon says:

      this goes for current artists as well. i always imagined a radio station that played “other” songs from the album. most of the times, my favorite songs are not the singles.

  47. dianewrites says:

    I can understand your sentiments. For some reason, I begin to dislike bands and other musicians when they become so hyped and popular. Unusual but I really like it when only a few of us can understand and relate to a certain music.

  48. CJ Vali says:

    Totally agree on The Black Keys part. The same for Wilco. At least they haven’t taken Old 97’s away from me yet. I still love those bands but I get totally pissy when I hear somebody I don’t like listening to or singing my music.

  49. stephenis says:

    Great post, illustrating an honest insight into an interesting aspect of popular culture as a whole.

    The phenomenon you are describing is not a result of other’s actions but a result of your own (which you share with most) flaws. WOWWW, how could he say such a thing?

    I mention that it is a flaw you have, because in my experience, it is one of the easiest flaws to identify and overcome.

    The flaw is something like this: Your personal identity and your personal value system is bound to external forces. Forces that may be out of your concious control.

    This is like saying what you do is not the same as who you are. If you DO like something, that is not the same as saying I am a ____ lover. If you DO practice law, you would be a victim of this if, when asked “who are you?” you responded I am a lawyer. Being a lawyer is a way of labelling your identity to an external source for your personal value or identity. The lawyer could have been an Author and then the answer to the question “who are you?” would, for the same person, now be different.

    Who you are, is NOT, what music you like. It has nothing to do with who else has similar tastes, and has nothing to do, in truth, with how you value or identify yourself to yourself.

    There is great risk in holding external value systems. The rich man who scores his personal identity and worth by his money, risks losing his personal self-worth when losing his money. The same can be said for a beautiful girl, loosing her self-worth when she (ages) looses her looks. The racist who falls in love with another race. The dancer who looses his legs in an accident. The mother, who’s family grows up and leaves home. These are all examples of the risks of having an external value system. The way these people once valued themselves changed and they find themselves either without or with a low personal value system.

    Who you are and your personal value is actually independent of your likes, possessions, associations, accomplishments etc.

    When you free yourself of this burden of self judgement, you will be able to, without risk to personal identity, explore any and all of your tastes and desires, opening up the true scale of possibilities of the world around you.

    Cut your ties to external value systems, or forever question your identity, and forever fall victim to forcing undue restraints on yourself , restraints that are required in order to conform to the identities you bind yourself to.

    Be yourself.

    I try and write the things I think people should hear, not what I think they want to hear.

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  50. pimpchef says:

    Mannn, that’s how I used to feel when errbody fell in love with my boys Run DMC. After while y’all get cool Abdul with it. I seen lotta guys like your boy with beard and no shirt dancing to electronica. Proof that music unites and who am I to stop the magical forces?

  51. elmer says:

    There’s always this first guy who thinks the same way you do when you’re starting to appreciate a tune he/she so likes before you do

  52. Kathy says:

    I’d start eating a lot more fresh fruits and vegetables and less meat LOL!

  53. nazarioartpainting says:

    Very funny.

  54. tseefc says:

    You’re absolutely right. Adele’s Rolling in the Deep was my favorite until everybody started playing it everywhere.

  55. ligh4043 says:

    That’s a beautiful man.

  56. Great post! Admittedly the picture caught my eye first – ha ha!

  57. triptracker says:

    I love the shot. I think if I was listening to my favorite songs and then saw that image in the shot, maybe that would ruin it for me. I know what you mean though I love finding a band I have not heard before. Like it is all my own.

  58. I thought I was the only one suffering from this. And everyone tells me its ok, I should share what I love! But you’re so right! I hate it when I love a band/song/character before they become ubiquitous, and suddenly everyone else makes them a common thing. But of course, that too, cannot stop me from liking what I like. 😉

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  60. asimpletom says:

    That dude looks like a legend! I’d love to rock out with him at a show. Rather be in a room full of dudes like that that a room with two hundred hipsters or scene snobs standing with thier arms crossed. Bad Scene – Everyone’s Fault.

  61. jknitt says:

    You = hipster. 😉

  62. GoodbyeNavi says:

    The music that becomes popular is music I have always disliked (well, lately). There are only a couple of artists that I have liked that became popular afterwards and frankly, I’m glad they did. They are GOOD and deserve the attention rather than these no-talents being popular. I can understand what you mean but for me its a “Ha! Told you they were awesome!”

  63. wardenfree says:

    I like to share my music with my friends because they can capture my moods.
    Congratulations on being Freshly Pressed!

  64. rNest says:

    I have mixed feelings about this.

    On one hand, I like the feeling of knowing and “owning” something special. It feels special to support someone or some group right from the start of their career. It’s like having pride in saying : “I loved you even before anyone cared to look at you.”

    On the other, I think it selfish to hate it when the whole world found out about our little secret. Music (and any form of beauty that we call art) was made and published because the artist definitely wanted to say something to the world. If they didn’t, they wouldn’t have uploaded their music on the internet.

    Whenever one of my favorite bands or singers begins to get acknowledged by the wider range of people, I try to feel happy for them, and just hope they don’t turn into some crappy artists just to conform to the market and gain more popularity. If that happens, then maybe they weren’t even worth so much of my loving from the beginning. 😀

  65. dizzle313 says:

    hahahaha! i know exactly what you mean. Nicely done 😉

  66. Joel Zamble says:

    That’s the difference being a fan and an artist. Music fans want their favorite underground band, or artist, to stay hidden forever. But the fact of the matter is in order for them to stay that way, you better have a pretty big check book. Most of these groups are starving but they’re great at what they do. And these artist try to broadcast their music to as many people as possible, so that 2 percent of the 10 million that hear them will support them religiously enough for them to make a decent living being artists. It goes like this, artist: “I’m very talented at creating music you like but you can’t make yourself, so support me as a fan, so I don’t become a bartender or stuck at some dead end job :)” Fan:” I’ll download your music for free but you can’t go mainstream. Stay broke so you can keep making the music I love… Oh no, now everyone knows you! Boo you suck, I hate you now!”

  67. Petter says:

    I advise you and those who agree with you to get over yourselves. If you gauge what music you like by how many or what type of people also like that song, band or album your level of shallowness knows incredible depths.

    Like many have already pointed out before me what music you like is supposed to be your own, but not in an egoistic way. If you stop liking something just because others also agree that it is great or if you consider yourself a “true” fan you are nothing but a sad, desperate hipster in my opinion.

    Get real and stop being obsessed with your status as a fan. Just enjoy the music and allow everyone else to do the same.

  68. Scott says:

    Yeah, that annoys the hell out of me! I saw a car commercial recently with two kids in the backseat mouth-farting Ozzie Osborne’s “Crazy Train”–and it sounded absolutely ridiculous. They especially do this with classical music. I still remember a damned McDonald’s commercial (McDonald’s are among the worst) that used a section of Franz Liszt’s Hungarian Rhapsody No. 2. Now I can’t hear the piece without remembering the asinine McDonald’s lyrics added to it. I believe wholeheartedly in an idea about music: If it’s an instrumental piece, adding lyrics will ruin it. Likewise, if it’s a song (with lyrics), playing it without the words will ruin it. Leave music the way it’s supposed to be, the way it was originally meant to be!

  69. moirads says:

    He’d be expected to wear a shirt of some sort to the symphony concerts. 🙂

  70. innocent1 says:

    I can relate because the music we like is often times a reflection of our identity and there will always be a part of us that wants to be different, to stand out from the crowd.

  71. jensine says:

    I just feel happy for the bands I like to finally have made it, after all it’s their dream come true … but i agree what is it with hipsters, don’t like or need them

  72. kevintoher says:

    I think this is something that happens to everybody, its not always that you end up hating a band because they are famous, your taste will always gradually change and people identify with bands and music at different times. Kings of Leon are one of the best examples of what can happen when a band hit the big time, the difference between the kings of Leon that made youth and young man hood and the ones that made Only by the night is huge so the music completely changed, Because of the times started getting them played on all the mainstream radio and they made it huge worldwide, sadly their music changed alot and I no longer liked it, but the first 3 albums still hold the same interest for me. If they still produced music that I thought was as good as the first three albums it wouldnt matter that they were famous and everybody loved them cause the music would be good but they dont. There will always be hipsters in one way or another and im sure i come across as one to people regularly but you will love music when you love it at that particular time and maybe you will go away from it and comeback again or not, not everything lasts forever but the great thing with music is their always something new to love you just have to look.

  73. dougsan says:

    that guy looks awesome. if he liked my music I’d be psyched.

  74. bmxbot says:

    The song stays the same, no matter how many times it is played. If you really liked it in the first place, you would appreciate hearing it, and the band making money, so they can keep making the music that you like.

  75. This has happened to me so many times it’s almost sad. But then you can tell everyone how the band was before they became popular, different or not. And if you are a true, til-the-end-of-time fan, you’ll be there even if everyone else leaves. I think that’s the best feeling in the world 🙂

  76. dweebcentric says:

    i used to feel that way as a kid – rolling my eyes when some idiot i hated started listening to the band that i liked. but these days, i’m grateful sometimes that a band i like becomes a bit more well-known or immensely well-known because it means that it becomes easier to find the music or go to the shows. and if they are finally able to make a living on their craft, then all the better.

    on a side note: did anyone ever have a band ruin the band for them? i recently saw a video of the cult (their stuff from the 80s, not now) and thought… this couldn’t be the band i had liked for all these years? this guy (the lead singer) looks like he went rummaging through prince’s old clothes.

  77. jillbware says:

    i deeply understand your bitterness…and if anyone touch Marina and the Diamonds, they are in for it:)

  78. Biffy Clyro…………ruined by the X-Facor! Snow Patrol …….ruined by Leona Lewis. 10yrs ago these bands were cool. Don’t even get me started on Kings of Leon. Now I have Harry Oakwood, not long till these bad boys get commercially raped.

  79. alonnroth says:

    I know exactly what u mean. It’s frustrating.

  80. I agree with what most of the commentators are saying, i.e, that it shouldn’t matter how many people like the music you like. However, I guess a problem with bands becoming “discovered” is that their music sometimes becomes more mainstream and loses a bit of its quirkiness in an attempt to stay popular.

  81. rosewater12 says:

    Don’t let your mother’s appreciation of Billie Holiday kill your love for Lady Day. There are many hours in a day and you can play that wonderful music when your mom is not around (like I did fifty years ago when I turned up Dylan and the Stones whenever the old folks left the house). You might even experiment with Satchmo and Count Basie. NEVER STOP LISTENING. MUSIC KEEPS THE BAD NEWS OUT.
    Great essay, by the way.

  82. gunstar80 says:

    You like it or you don’t like it. Being annoyed that other people like the same things you do means you value the image of the music rather than the music itself, which is really rather sad.

  83. gianthead says:

    I just have to say one thing….Cold Cave….thank me later!!!

  84. Yeah, this happened to me with She&Him, but (on the positive side) I’m glad that such a band is now getting so much recognition!

    Courtney Hosny

  85. Rebekah says:

    That’s kind of a bit selfish, don’t ya think? When I hear a great band or appreciate a song, I WANT to share it with everybody! I’m like, “this is my jam!” and I’m ready to rock out. The more that rock out with me, the merrier! It’s a win for the band too. You can still jam solo, but don’t hate! LOL.

  86. Anonymous says:

    The only thing I find annoying is that as soon as a song become’s popular the radio stations play it over and over and over……and over,until you get so sick of hearing it that you don’t like it anymore.If you wanna hear some old but good songs that aren’t played out anymore try listening to 100.3 FM,they play a good variety of the older popular music.

  87. Music makes soul set on fire and hearts sing, labels only separate us from one another. Everyone should be able to enjoy and experience music. However they find them The Black Keys are rad and maybe by becoming popular they reached audiences who might not otherwise get to hear them~
    shine on~

  88. segmation says:

    Music is such an interesting thing. So many artists out there! At least the guy in your digital picture is happy and getting exercise!

    Thanks for sharing.

  89. […] a heap of broken images’s well this guy DOES like your music, which was in turn inspired by sweetfoot’s post on how annoying it is when other people start liking music that you like (it made it onto Freshly […]

  90. danieltackett says:

    Yep. Plenty of bands I used to love but then got tired of em bc of the sort of folk that stated obsessin’ over em

  91. danieltackett says:

    Started*** pardon me. But yes there will always be the ones who can’t be ruined for us

  92. mystereum says:

    “All similar, each unique.”(c) From my perspective the best thing a band I like can do is to stay in business. So, market saturation is a great 2-way street for me and my friends and the band. Odds are, if they resonated with me once, they might simply do it again, maybe even more than once each release. Hiding work you like as if it is yours may in fact be the cause many bands get smothered. Turn it up to 11 and ring it out to the world. Then again, sharing isn’t always advisable. For example: Eyes off my cookies.lol Thanks for your blog.

  93. Roshni says:

    I love this post! Absolutely crazily! This is something I’ve gone through so many times. I like some song that isn’t very popular and then, when I find all the ‘wrong’ kind of people humming (wherever I go) or playing it, it bugs me like HELL! 🙂

  94. hangryhippo says:

    i just saw this performer nick waterhouse play in a basement, and i literally went up to him and said “i’d like to take a picture with you now, because in a few years you’re going to have your song in a commercial and be huge and i want to say i saw you play in a basement way back when.”
    so, yes, i know exactly what you mean.

  95. ramuay says:

    Hit the Nail on the head? Post is perfect! Is the guy in the pic a friend?

  96. Anonymous says:

    I can not wait for the day when my band’s wagon spills over with catcher ons… Off every Tuesday to group therapy with Thom Yorke and the Black Keys all upset at being unpopular then overly popular, Tuesdays suck

  97. brickm says:

    Do you know the guy you are referring to as “this guy” in the photo at the top of the post? I’m not sure the post is enhanced by an image making fun of someone listening to music at a concert. Of course, if you know this guy, or you are this guy, then it is an entirely different scenario. It would be a case of self aware hipster irony, which would dovetail nicely with a post about a very hipster notion of that-band-sold-out-and-were-better-when-only-I-knew-about-them-bla-bla-bla.

  98. shahrazad says:

    I think that it is ok if someone like him or another like this kind of music, he is in the end human being , and we must not be like this
    what if he fat you must think that maybe he sick and cant become thin
    that is my opinion

  99. At least you can say you heard it first. 🙂 I love when a band that I love and has real talent and ambition makes it big. In my opinion its the radio stations and the lack of diversity in their rotation that makes it easy to get tired of hearing a song that once upon a time made you feel something major; when you hear a song every hour on the hour, no matter how killer it is, it tends to get a little stale.

  100. Lindsay Misiner says:

    You totally got the jist of it man. Cool.

  101. falmanza1221 says:

    I totally love it when my friends get into the same music I am. Something else to be together about, it is a lot harder to be close when you don’t like the same things. We share everything from music to books. Its one of the only things that matters.

  102. i enjoy hairy, larger men. so, we would mouth the songs memorized from endless radio play intermittedly kissing and smelling our soulmate sweat. 🙂

  103. Alyssa says:

    I can relate or used to, I used to mind it like I don’t let friends burrow my CDs nor let them share headphones with me but now I like the idea of sharing music with the people around me. 🙂

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  104. it’s rocking , thanks for shairing

  105. Jnana Hodson says:

    Yeah, I had that happen back in the early sixties. (Don’t laugh!) Went to a Joan Baez concert and the audience was largely sorority chicks and frat rats. Couldn’t listen to her for a year after that, even three states away.

    As for your photo: he could well be into Wagner. I could dig that. You never know.

  106. I definitely agree with this great post. I was in love with a Canadian Band called Chromeo from their beginning in 2004. My husband and I met them in 2010, they dedicated our favourite song 100% to me at the concert because it was our upcoming first dance wedding song. Now they are gaining popularity and I am feeling they way you dp. Fantastic post!!! You clearly expressed my feelings. Congrats on being FB as well. You gained a follower -and my husband shortly too 😉
    Cheers, Kat

  107. Anonymous says:

    I remember listening to a self-titled album by a then unknown band called “No Doubt”. It was ok for awhile but then Gwen went solo and it went too pop. Oh well, I’ve learned to stop identifying with things like that and to just enjoy what I enjoy.

  108. creeped says:

    I used to have the same sentiments. It’s the idea of identifying yourself through your tastes. Music is such an easy way to create an individual identity and once people start closing in by your tastes becoming popular, it’s like a loss of identity.

    I get that. I felt that all through my university years. Oh the thought of something becoming POPULAR.

    Now I’m in my late twenties, I’ve come to terms without and embrace my musical tastes becoming popular. Like the Black Keys (I’ve loved them since Rubber Factory and went back to buy thickfreakness). I’ve learnt that music is also a great way to unite the masses and there is something quite special about being able to bond with people fo all walks of life through music.

    Who knew that I would become LESS jaded as I aged?

  109. Having people discover and like what you already know about is the price of greatness. 🙂

  110. Why do you think it ruins it for you if others like it that do not appear cool on the outside? Think about it. They are probably awesome on the inside. The only one that ever ruined a song for me was Eddie Murphies character of Buckwheat on Saturday Night Live. They had him singing all these songs with a speech impediment. They also had a skit with Chris Farley and Patrick Swayze competing as a Chippendale dancer. Check out you tube if you missed it. You will never listen to “Working for the Weekend” in the same way.

  111. taraleshdude says:

    Once every now and then a post that leads to .. comments that are such (hate those “great pic man”, “love it” .. of which the blogging community is just full)

  112. Rebeca says:

    In response to your question, he looks like a fun dude. LOL

  113. […] read a good blog entry from sweetfoot.wordpress.com the other day titled ‘what if this guy liked your music’. Basically it was a discussion of how […]

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